Where Does Your Uncertainty Come From?

If your uncertainty isn’t just about achieving a goal, but goes deeper into the core of who you are, you need to raise your self-esteem. Psychologist William James believed that to improve your chances of attaining your goals, you could do one of two things:

-- lower your goals to meet your low self-esteem

-- raise your self-esteem to meet your goals

I’ve never been one to lower my goals. As an example, even though I never set out with the lofty dream of becoming a multi-millionaire, I always set myself a goal of reaching higher than wherever I was. To do that, I had to believe in my ability to achieve the next stage of success. I never for a minute considered lowering my goals. I chose growth and believed that I was equal to my aspirations. I encourage you to think of the things you value about yourself. Often, you’ll find what you value about yourself most complements the values you chose as the guiding principles of your life. Don’t just focus on your accomplishments to date; look deeper and you may uncover assets that are sleeping within you and only need to be awakened. Many people have written to me after our LifePilot workshops to say they discovered parts of themselves they had ignored or felt uncertain about.

Excerpt from 'LifeManual' by Peter H. Thomas. www.lifemanual.com. Copyright 2005, 2006. All rights reserved.

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